Time stretches to enable you, when intentions become actions, I’ve learned. Accommodating what we need or want in a schedule isn’t an obstacle of time, but willingness. Self-care goes through phases and I’ve come to know when it slips, as the right time to shift into a new routine. Changes in life had motivated me to be more productive, though I was exhausted. Self-care kept going ignored. I’d adapted my day to include something new, and the activities that I know help me thrive, had become neglected. This often happens when something new is taken on. Self-care is not something I can afford to ignore. I’ve journalled and meditated for years; perhaps the place it fell in my day was key.
I looked at my day and there was a gap after home/garden work, home educating and writing, before I needed to prepare the family dinner. I rolled out the mat, changed clothes and did some yin yoga. The next day I played drum while meditating. I know environment is part of it. That’s why fitness gear and musical instruments occupy a corner of the living room and I cleared away a few things to make more space. It’s only been a few weeks and I’m feeling better. There are days I simply drum or journal on the mat with ambient music. It flows better, with less friction and I’m enjoying it in different ways to before. The space and tools are to hand, it falls into the same place in my day and because it’s a lifelong habit adjusted; decision-making has been removed almost entirely.
The opportunity to meet in person and chat is another form of self-care. Studies prove that human contact, both in physical touch and with conversation, helps boost wellbeing. That’s why I’ve set up community groups that meet regularly. Talking to others we can share things we’ve seen, places we’ve been, what we’re reading or listening to. Anything new we’re trying out, what’s working (and what isn’t). Other’s experiences, challenges and progress can inspire and encourage us. It feels more authentic in person; things shared are treasured more.